I offer a number of different styles of counselling and therapy to suit individual needs and issues. Below are some of the most popular areas I work with and some of the techniques. Please read through to see if any might be suitable for you, or get in touch with me to discuss further if you’re not quite sure which option would be right for you.
Many people experience issues relating to sex at some point in their life. These issues are often difficult to talk about and people can remain in a cycle of confusion, frustration and distress for long periods of time. Psychosexual counselling works to reduce the taboo nature of sexual issues and bring issues out into the open to work on in a way that is comfortable, in order to make your sex life fun and enjoyable.
Support is unique to the individual and caters for a range of problems including:
- Sexual function, such as reaching orgasm, loss of libido & erectile dysfunction
- Intimacy issues
- Sexual abuse
- Gender identity
- Sex and porn addiction
Relationships are complex and can often be overwhelming once issues start to creep in. Exploring your concerns in a nurturing and honest way can alleviate problems that have built up, helping you to understand why and how they occurred, and where you can make positive changes.
Issues that you may want to address within relationship and couples counselling could include:
- Dealing with difficult, complex & erratic emotions, including anger and grief
- Communication difficulties
- Affair & trust issues
- Abuse, including toxic relationships and domestic abuse
- Moving on after separation, including support for and around children of separating parents
Couples often benefit from attending sessions together and it may be also be beneficial to pair this support with individual sessions.
Domestic abuse can take many forms including emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual, verbal, financial abuse and quite often a mixture of both. It may be confusing to recognise as the the abuse behaviour may be very subtle or happen as part of a cycle of ups and downs.
Therapy can help you explore these behaviours within the context of your relationship and help you feel better about yourself.
II have spent 20 years studying and working with couples and individuals that have been in Toxic/Abusive relationships. Some relationships are very obviously abusive they are overtly physically violent but some are much more difficult to spot!
Often Toxic relationships start off very loving, like “ a match made in heaven”, but months or years later its like living with a Jekyll and Hyde character.
CHECK THESE CHARACTERISTICS
- He/She uses subtle digs to put you down
- Name Calls
- Criticises you
- Blames you
- Devalues you
- May act in a jealous manner
- Talks over you
- They think they know best
If you find yourself in this mean/sweet cycle or recognise any of these characteristics then you may be in a Toxix/Coercive Relationship. These relationships can be very damaging to you.
- These relationships can be:
- A romantic relationship
- A Mother Daughter /son relationships
- A father Son/ daughter relationship
- A work colleague relationship
If you feel you may be in a Toxic relationship and wish to explore your personal situation then contact an experienced therapist in this area.
Addiction, characterised by persistent use of substances or problematic behaviours despite knowledge of the negative consequences, is a complex issue and can arise for a number of reasons. Genetics can play a factor, but more commonly problems relate to a family history of addiction, childhood experiences and co-occurring mental conditions. Addiction is often used to manage emotional pain or mask past issues.
Counselling can provide a space to unravel the problem by addressing underlying issues and tackling compulsive use and diminished control. Helping to find new and constructive ways to self-reward, produce feelings of pleasure and live a healthy life .
Types of addiction include:
- Drug & alcohol
- Internet, social media and phone
- Sex & porn
You may not know if you have an addiction, but if you have concerns about certain behaviours, your counselling sessions can begin with an initial assessment before starting any treatment. This will help you to make an informed decision as to whether you are struggling with an addiction and I can best support you.
If you have an sex/porn addiction you may benefit from a package of support looking at psychosexual counselling.
TRAUMA, DEPRESSION & ANXIETY RELATED PROBLEMS
Mental health related issues are not always diseases but can be the body’s way of trying to cope with a deeper internal conflict.
Trauma, depression and anxiety are difficult conditions to cope with. They can overwhelm people with negative thoughts that sap self-confidence, leaving people low in mood and energy and confused.
Common issues which people might need support with are:
- Postnatal depression, birth & pre/post natal trauma
- Family and parenting problems
These conditions are often heightened by stigmatization, media clichés and the stress relating to maintaining day to day routines which may cause difficulties. Sometimes thoughts are intrusive or of a dark, sexual or violent nature, which can cause worry or a need to seek constant reassurance. The knock on effects of mental health issues such as these can be extremely challenging and you may not know where to turn..
Counselling and psychotherapy can work to alleviate and challenge negative thoughts and compulsive behaviours, make sense of current and past situations and identify new ways to cope, think and behave. This can help you to have a deeper and more satisfactory sense of self and improve overall health and wellbeing in order to live a fulfilling life.
LONG-TERM & CHRONIC ILLNESS
Whether you have a recent diagnosis or have been living with a long-term illness, people often require counselling to help them adjust, communicate their feelings and address specific issues. Illness can be extremely difficult to deal with, and can cause a wide range of problems including:
- Loneliness & isolation
- Acceptance & problems coming to term with the condition
- Effects of relationships
- Work related issues
- Managing conditions, treatments and results
- Undiagnosed health complaints
- Coping strategies
- Crisis management
Counselling can provide you with a safe space to talk about the day to day issues relating to illness, and can also help you to find ways to support your long-term health and wellbeing.
Sometimes a counsellor can help to identify detrimental behaviours and conditions that can contribute to long-term health issues, and work with you in a sensitive and supportive way in order to overcome them.
As a qualified family counsellor and a facilitator as a Webster-Stratton parenting courses I can provide family counselling or parenting advice. You may be a parent who is worried about your child’s behaviour or worried they are suffering from anxiety or depression. You may want advice about how separation, divorce or loss may be affecting your child or family. You maybe part of a blended family and need help adjusting and communicating with each other.
BIRTH, BIRTH TRAUMA & INFERTILITY
According to the BTA ( Birth Trauma Association) 30,000 women each year experience Birth Trauma in the UK. Instead of it being a joyful and happy experience for one reason and another it has become a traumatic experience:
- Not being looked after properly.
- The experience has been frightening
- Your baby may have suffered an injury before or during birth•Your baby may have died
- Your baby has been born with special needs
Birth trauma means that you can’t move forward. You may be suffering from depression, anxiety, anger, flash backs and nightmares and you may find your symptoms are triggered by seeing other pregnant women or other reminders of birth.
My training as a midwife then as a counsellor and trauma therapist puts me in a unique position to tailor a very effective package of treatment that will help you recover from your birth trauma.
I have been qualified as a young persons therapist for 16 years and have set up counselling services in primary and secondary schools across Derbyshire and Manchester districts. I’m also a qualified facilitator for the Well known Webster Stratton parenting course.
Your child may be experiencing problems at school such as friendship issues, bullying or have general anxiety or depression. Your child may be struggling with sexuality issues, parents separating or blended family problems or generally seem not themselves.
Counselling will provide a supportive non-judgmental space for your child to explore their concerns and worries away from home and school to help them get back to enjoying their life again.
As a qualified midwife, counsellor and gaining a further qualification in infertility counselling from St Mary’s Hospital Manchester in 2010, I appreciate how distressing it is going through the diagnosis and treatment process of IVF. I can offer a confidential support and an insight into the treatment ahead of you and together we can find new ways of coping with the emotionally journey that you will go through!
I have trained in a range of therapies, which can work alongside counselling and coaching.
Psychotherapy is a talking therapy and, comparative to counselling, is usually a more long term intervention focusing on a broad range of issues. It can include CBT, Systemic therapy and psycho-dynamic therapies.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) is a fast and powerful psychotherapy treatment to decrease the negative emotional responses that are a result of adverse life experiences and challenging memories and behaviours; often the result of trauma.
As a private practitioner and as part of the team at Trauma Northwest Clinics, I work with EMDR treatment to meet people’s specific needs, treating a broad range of symptoms and underlying traumas.
If you would like further information on this particular treatment, go to my website, Trauma Northwest Clinics to find out more.
This approach blends elements from different approaches and tailors them to meet the clients personnel needs. Integrative therapy is more inclusive of the client than traditional therapies, the client plays an important, active role in his/her treatment. I use my professional judgement and consider the individuals characteristics, preferences, needs and abilities to decide on the best approach to their treatment. It is a very respectful approach that builds on an understanding in normal human behaviour and on what the client already knows about themselves.
CBT Focuses on how you think (your cognitive processes) and looks at how your thoughts can affect the way you feel and behave.. This therapy concentrates on uncovering the negative thoughts, and changing negative patterns of thought and behaviour to improve how we feel. CBT can be a very effective therapy which I can tailor to your individual needs.